Lorna Seilstad – Real Life Romance – Part 1 of 2

Shannon here: Historical romance author, Lorna Seilstad shares what she’s learned during twenty-five years of marriage. Comment or answer the question at the end of any post dated April 27 – 29 to enter the drawing for a copy of her latest release, As Love Blooms. Deadline: May 9th, 11:59 pm central time. Here’s Lorna:

Lorna Seilstad wedding

25 things I’ve Learned in 25 Years of Marriage by Lorna Seilstad

In February, my husband and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. To celebrate, we are going on an Alaskan cruise with another couple later this year. I can’t wait.

In some ways it seems like we said “I do” yesterday, and in other ways, it feels like we’ve been married forever. There have been difficult times including the loss of three of our combined four parents. But there have been many more blessedly sweet times of shared laughter, a hug at the end of a long day, or watching our children step out into the world.

Here are some of the things we’ve discovered along the way.

1. Time picks up speed. Remember when you were little and it took forever for Christmas to come? Now, it seems like you turn around and it’s here again. Cherish the time.

2. Love is a gift, but it’s also an action. Love is a lot more about how you treat the other person than how you feel.

3. There is no such thing as 50/50. Sometimes he seems to give more, and at other times I think I do. That’s life.

4. The more we laughed, the more we fell in love.

5. In order for my husband to feel loved, he needs to be respected. In order for me to feel respected, I need to feel loved. (Eph. 5:25, 5:33)

6. I’m so glad I married a man who is easy to respect. (see #5)

7. A good marriage is more like a garden than anything else. It needs to be nurtured and tended. And a few weeds pulled.

8. There’s a reason the Bible says, “Love is patient. Love is kind. It is not rude…”

9. There’s also a reason it says to “keep no record of wrongs.” Making mental lists of wrongs makes Satan very happy.

10. Inevitably, married couples struggle, but struggles can strengthen the bond.

11. Learning to yield to one another is an on-going task.

12. Criticism destroys. I need this one tattooed on my heart.

13. Being married doesn’t mean you’ll never be lonely. It does mean you’re not alone. There’s a difference.

14. Your husband cannot possibly meet all your needs, and it’s unfair to expect him to.

15. When you think to yourself, “I really shouldn’t say this,.” you’re probably right.

16. Fight fair. One topic at a time and without saying “you always do this” or “you never do that.”

17. Marriages have stages which gives you chances to re-discover one another over and over.

18. We each have our own love languages and learning to recognize how he is showing me his love is invaluable. For my “acts of service” husband, he’ll often say, “I emptied the dishwasher.” Translation: “I love you.”

19. Love and joy are decisions.

20. I read, “Marriage is taking place on a spiritual battlefield, not on a romantic balcony.” That’s was true in the beginning and it’s still true today.

21. It’s easy to compete with your spouse, rather than complete them.

22. Both of us having teachable spirits has meant more to our marriage than I ever predicted.

23. There are no mind-readers in marriage, so you have to talk often, openly, and honestly.

24. Count your blessings. In a Bible study I was at, a widow said the thing she missed about having her husband was not being the most important person in the world to anyone any longer. I think of her words often and thank God for my husband.

25. Happiness is not the goal in marriage. Holiness is. Focusing on God, glorifying Him, and serving Him is the goal which truly draws us closer.

Lorna SeilstadAs Love Blooms by Lorna Seilstad

About Lorna: A history buff, antique collector, wedding coordinator, and freelance graphic designer, Lorna Seilstad is the author of Making Waves, A Great Catch, and The Ride of Her Life. A former high school English and journalism teacher, she has won several online writing contests and is a member of American Christian Fiction Writers. Lorna lives in Council Bluffs, Iowa, with her husband. They have two children in college and one still at home. Visit her at www.lornaseilstad.com, on Facebook, on Pinterest, and on Twitter.

About the book – As Love Blooms:

Young romance opens like a rose . . . but even a rose has its thorns.

Tessa Gregory is nothing if not tenacious. Denied a position as a horticulturist at prestigious Como Park in Saint Paul, Minnesota, she is not above a little benevolent deception in order to get the park superintendent to change his mind and hire her. She plans to infiltrate the world of wealthy and influential people in hopes of drumming up financial support for a world-class conservatory. But before she can put those plans into action, she meets Reese King, a handsome gardener at Como Park–and a major distraction. Still, Reese might be the key to achieving her dream. But is his goal to help her . . . or to capture her heart?

Against the lush backdrop of manicured gardens and greenhouses full of the exotic, Lorna Seilstad weaves a sweet and sassy story that is sure to delight.

What people are saying about The Gregory Sisters:

“A cut above the rest.”–RT Book Reviews

“Thoroughly charming.”–Maggie Brendan, author of the Heart of the West series and The Blue Willow Brides series

“Delightful . . . a wonderfully satisfying read.”–Suzanne Woods Fisher, bestselling author of The Inn at Eagle Hill series

Question: Have you ever been on a cruise? If so, where? If not, would you like to?

Come back April 29th for part two from Lorna!

19 Responses to “Lorna Seilstad – Real Life Romance – Part 1 of 2”

  • Kathryn Voss says:

    I have never been on a cruise, but I think a Mediterreanean one would be so much fun!

  • Alecia w says:

    No I haven’t…..I’m not sure where I’d want to go though, maybe a Disney cruise 😉

  • Such wisdom, Lorna! And I love the wedding pic of you & David. I can just see the love you have for each other!

    My husband and I went on a cruise years ago–on the first Disney cruise boat (which happened to be the same boat they used to shoot The Love Boat). We loved it, and would love to take our entire family on a Disney cruise someday.

    (Don’t enter me. I’ve already ordered my copy. 🙂 )

  • Shelia Hall says:

    never been on a cruise but would love to! Good advice Lorna!

  • Lis K says:

    I feel like I need to print this out blog post and frame it, so many wise thoughts that I need to be reminded of 🙂 No, I’ve never been on a cruise but my kids would love to go on the Disney Cruise.

  • Patty says:

    I have never been on a cruise… just recently got married and my husband has not either, so maybe for a 5th anniversary trip? Sounds good to me!

  • HI all! This will be our first cruise as well. We are going with some dear friends of ours.

    And Brenda, as for the photo at the top, that’s the only time I think David has ever tipped my chin up with his knuckle. I’m sure the photographer told him to do that. The love, however, was genuine.

  • No I have never been on a cruise but would love to go sometime. I think one to Alaska or Australia would be my choices.

    I love Lorna’s books, they are some of the best I’ve read. Thank you for the chance to win “As Love Blooms”.

    wfnren at aol dot com

  • Beth C says:

    I have not been on a cruise. I would love to go on one to Alaska!
    pbclark(at)netins(dot)net

  • Lori Weller says:

    I have not been on a cruise either but have always wanted to go on one to Alaska also.

  • Maybe I should pack you all up and take you on the cruise with me to Alaska. 🙂 I’ll let you know what it’s like.

    Wendy, thank you for your kind words!

  • Janet Estridge says:

    I went on a cruise to Nassau almost 20 years ago. I went during spring break and to get away from high school kids for a week.
    Guess who was on the cruise? A whole boat load of high schoolers.

  • Hello Lorna. No, I haven’t gone on a cruise. kinda scared of water, and those cruises are long trips. But, if I did, a visit to relatives in Alaska would be great. And, I think it would be great to visit Noela Nancarrow in Australia. The pictures from there are neat Shannon, thanks for hosting Lorna. Would love to win this book. And the cover is beautiful. Maxie

  • Melanie Backus says:

    Hi Lorna! I love your post! You brought about so many wonderful things that we could all take to heart. My husband and I, along with my college roommate and her husband, will be taking an Alaskan cruise in August. We all will be celebrating 40 years of marriage! What a great way to celebrate.

    My son and I cruised to Alaska fifteen years ago when he graduated from high school. The hubby wouldn’t go then but he is eager to go now.

    melback at cebridge dot net

  • Loraine N. says:

    I went on a cruise when I was single and loved it! Just think how much better it would be to go on one with my true love… Hopefully someday! These are great tips for marriages. Thanks for the tips and the giveaway!

  • Bonnie Roof says:

    Would love to read “As Love Blooms” – beautiful cover!!

    I love cruises – I’ve been on week-long cruises to Alaska and Hawaii, as well as 24 hour cruise to the Bahamas.

    bonnieroof60(at)yahoo(dot)com

  • Merry says:

    I’ve never gone on a cruise but I would love to go! Hawaii, Alaska, the Carribbean, anywhere!
    worthy2bpraised at gmail dot com

  • Samantha B says:

    I have never been on a cruise, but I think it would be fun 🙂
    The ocean is beautiful and I think it’s a great way to travel and visit some new places 😉

  • Maryann says:

    Thank you for that beautiful list Lorna. A few of those really spoke to my heart and congrats on 25 years!
    marypopmom (at) yahoo (dot) com

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